Declutter Your Mind: How to Stop Worrying, Relieve Anxiety, and Eliminate Negative Thinking by S.J. Scott
My rating: 3 of 5 stars
Ah, clutter…we all have it. And in today’s world it has gotten into our minds. There are some very good points in this book on how to handle the everyday worries and anxiety that seem to affect all of us. But reading about eliminating it and doing it is quite different. We can always try and I do follow some of the points given in this book but somehow I really am not sure you can turn off what swirls in your mind every minute, hour or day.
But at least this is a road map to follow. And I suppose if you are really diligent about it, it will work. Having just retired I certainly have eliminated the stress of work….that’s a start!
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Yesterday I spent two hours going over papers. Reading, signing and having them notarized. Picking options, making copies … Today I sorted through them re-checking everything to make sure I had all the forms properly filled out.
Tomorrow I will take all these papers and go directly to the office where I will put in my Retirement papers to make it official. How do I feel you ask me (or maybe you dont) but I really cant explain it. Happy, Sad, Afraid, Sorry, Excited…
All of the above. I want to because it is time. I look forward to doing whatever I want, waking when I want – even if it is early in the morning. Shopping in stores that are not crowded – doing errands during the week instead of everything on Saturday or even better, on my way home from work.
Yes, I am looking forward to it…..will let you know how it went – they say it will take about two hours….well, once it is done all I have to do is finish out the rest of the school year (12 days but who’s counting) and – that’s it!
I sit here at my computer, after watching a show; then reading a few chapters of an amazing book and watching hubby sleep. It is two o’clock in the afternoon when I write this and while the weather outside is not delightful – I find I cannot move. There is laundry to be done, housecleaning to be done but instead I sit here at my computer.
I am not playing games – I am not on FB – I am thinking. The stillness and quiet is deafening. While I do hear kids out front playing basketball – yes, my neighbor decided to put a basketball hoop in front of his house – and while he and his family are not around this weekend – I have the neighborhood children in front of my house. But that noise does not stop the thoughts in my head.
Hubby sleeps way too much. He says it is the medications he is on – way too many – but then he cannot sleep at night. I am afraid that my life will change soon – you see, I plan to retire in 41 days….and I dont want to end up on the couch with hubby.
So I must make a plan to start moving…..I know what I would like to do, what I must do – get up every morning even though I have no where to go – and get out of the house. I love being home, plan to read (my passion) plan to crochet (another passion) and of course having 9 grandkids will keep me busy too. But the time they are in school there is still an expanse of time to do what? I will have to convince hubby to do things with me because I will not stay home everyday…..
As the months pass us by I find myself looking forward to retirement. I have worked since I was 17, taking off 10 years to raise my children, and then going back to work. A total of almost 40 years – time to rest. My job is great, I love it – I am around children a lot, working in a school. I am the payroll secretary and am good at what I do.
But the time has come – I want to enjoy the rest of my life – not get up at 5:30 am every day – 7:00 sounds much better. I want to do what I want to do – not what I have to do. If I want to sit and read and have a glass of wine – I can! I am now being asked what will I do once I retire…..the list is long – on top of it is to work my Avon business more – it has been a part time job for me, but I would like to branch out. (and its not really work to me) Then there will be taking a course in our local community school, joining a community center, going to book signings (they are always at 1 pm in the afternoon) and of course living in NYC affords me so many opportunities to venture out and experience so much.
Recently I read an Article in Market Watch that listed the 10 best things to do in retirement:
- Get a job – just left one, no way but then again I have my Avon job…..so – way
- Volunteer – going to do that
- Take up a sport – yeah right – maybe a zumba class, or walking?
- Get a hobby – yes, plan on doing gardening (maybe tomatoes) and of course I love to crochet
- Start a business – or for me, continue my Avon business
- Travel – yes, must fit in a cruise or two and then there are day trips – love to drive, Atlantic City here I come.
- Take a bridge (gap) year – especially great when that snow keeps falling and I dont have to get up to go to work!
- Camp for adults – never heard of that one Mmmmm
- Go south for the winter – as good as that sounds I am too close to my family who are all here in NY – but maybe! I do have a sister in Florida…..
- Make new friends who ages are different from yours….hopefully that will happen when I take courses.
And the best part is I dont have to do any of the above – I can do whatever I want!
I love reading and carry my Kindle with me 24/7. Never know when you will have free time (waiting in a doctor’s office) and want to do something other than play with your cell phone. I also belong to this great book club – online – called Goodreads.com
Here I have found great books and new authors. I love thrillers and mysteries and as soon as I finish one book – I am onto another. One of the things I am looking forward to when I retire – in 83 days – is being able to sit down and read books. Right now I squeeze my reading in – sometimes in the morning, or during lunch – but most of the time at night before bedtime.
I also met quite a few friends who love to read and we are always recommending books, asking about each other’s books and discussing what we like – one big happy reading family. There are also groups you can belong to specific to certain genres and also contests where you can win books.
Not only do I read books but I also review them – besides on Amazon – you can find my reviews on my other blog here
So, if you are a reader come by Goodreads.com and ask to be my friend so we can sit down with a cup of tea (or wine) and a good book to discuss….
There is a countdown on my phone and yesterday I finally got a look at it…..and it told me that I have 92 days, 6 hours, 31 minutes, 24 seconds left to go until……… I retire.
When I started the countdown I remember it said something like 136 days, etc. and I said well, that’s a long way off. But now there is only about 3 months left. I have been reading blogs on retirement and trying to find out how other feel because I am not sure how I feel. Oh, I do know I want to retire but then what.
How will it feel not getting up at 5:15 am (hitting the snooze button for 1/2 hour) – getting dressed, have a cup of coffee and out the door. My schedule involves picking up 2 grandkids along the way and stopping at Dunkin Donuts. After I drop them off at school – I finally arrive at work (also a school) and the day begins.
How am I not going to do that? First thing of course will be shutting off that dam alarm, so I guess it will be easier not getting up that early. Then I will leisurely get dressed and go downstairs for my first cup of coffee. I might even have it out on the patio if the weather permits. Of course I will have my Kindle with me as I can now read during the day – instead of squeezing it in at night before bed.
I will go shopping at 9 am when the stores are not crowded. I will have lunch with friends who are retired already. Of course, I still have my Avon business so I will expand that – but because I want to do it, not that I have to. I might take a class or two at the local community college. Then there is joining the community center – I am lucky to have one in my neighborhood and one in the next neighborhood only 10 minutes away.
I can pick up and go anywhere – living near Atlantic City I can take the two hour drive and sit on the beach or gamble the day away. And if I dont want to return home – I can stay there overnight – or for as long as I want.
As a lover of reading books I have always wanted to go to a book signing – but they are always at noon or 1 pm on a week day – yay, I can finally go to them. I guess what I am saying is I CAN DO WHATEVER I PLEASE!!!!!
I have found that a lot of people in this day and age dont bother with an Avon Rep – why? well, anyone can go online and buy what they want. Who needs a middle man (woman) to pressure them or push more products. You know what you want – go online and order it…..but
Not everyone realizes there are perks you get when you have a Representative on your side.
- Your own dedicated representative – your personal shopper with custom service and specialized beauty advice. She knows all the secrets.
- Pre-sales – take advantage of special product launches before they are available to the public.
- Free Rep delivery – enjoy the convenience of ordering on avon.com with an added personal touch (if you live in my neighborhood you can order online, and have it delivered to me – no shipping costs – and I will deliver to you with some extra free goodies (I love to spoil my customers).
- You are supporting my dream, you are shopping with a friend and encouraging me to do well – so well, I plan to retire from my full time job to do this as my passion.
So if you live in my neighborhood – I service area codes 11229 and 11234 – contact me – I also do a brochure mailing once a month – get on my mailing list….I would love to be your Avon Lady. Dont live in my neighborhood? Become part of my team and sell Avon – Ask me how or join at www.startavon.com reference code: ashapiro
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