I love magazines and have recently subscribed to several….on food, beauty and weight loss. One of the magazines I was reading today brought out such great things that I just had to share. The editor in chief wrote her letter about fearing change. I know the older I get the harder it is to change. I get comfortable in my everyday living and am content. Not sure that is a bad thing. But she also brought out that this is an adult thing. Kids on the other hand live in the moment, they improvise when things dont go their way…they dont have anxiety over whether they made the right choice or not.
And it is true. The thought of moving has crossed my mind a million times and I still cannot decide. Can I use a house where everything is on one level (cant do stairs anymore)….or how about going to a warmer climate (cant do snow anymore) – yet, the idea of packing or leaving the children – although all grown with families of their own – is mind boggling and therefore I still havent decided.
The younger we are, we can jump into the unknown. Like my son who is moving to another country – so far away. Today’s youth step out of their comfort zone and try something new. It is an adventure to them….and if it doesn’t work, they can always come back to the US. But then I remember when I was young also – I did step out of my comfort zone when I up and quit my job to go cross-country with two friends….a bag of clothes, some camping equipment and a car….was it really 48 years ago.
Then I thought what does age have to do with it. Why do we over-think everything. And as old as I am I did jump into the unknown when I became an Avon Rep….retired from my job to do it full time and have never looked back. I am all over the place, meeting people, dropping off books and taking orders. I deliver to where my customers are comfortable (one wants me to deliver where she bowls, and in doing so, I have met even more customers)
So, yes, lets all take that leap out of our comfort zone…because you never know the possibilities that are out there and where they may lead unless you take that leap out of your comfort zone….mine is leading toward being in the President’s Club of Avon….one of my goals this year!
What is it about getting older that we find ourselves going to the doctor sooo often. It seems every time I look at my calendar it has a doctor’s appointment in it. Separate doctors….one for the heart, one for the thyroid, blood tests in between, one for the knees and dont forget the dentist and the eye doctor.
Sometimes I wonder if it is just that we are getting old – or because we want to make sure everything is working good before we get older.
Sometimes I dread it and then there are other times it gives me some reading time – especially if it is a good book!
I never went to so many doctors when I was younger – was it because I didnt care? didnt feel all the pain I do now? or it’s something we all must do when you hit a certain age.
Maybe if we went to doctors when we were younger we wouldnt need them now…..probably not true.
And so we go around in circles, trying to find that parking spot not so far from the doctors office, wait patiently in the outer office to be called….wait patiently in the exam room waiting to be examined….and sit a long time in the consultation room waiting to speak to the doctor…..only to make another appointment in two months? six months? to do it all over again!
“Life is amazing. And then it’s awful. And then it’s amazing again. And in between the amazing and awful it’s ordinary and mundane and routine. Breathe in the amazing, hold on through the awful, and relax and exhale during the ordinary. That’s just living heartbreaking, soul-healing, amazing, awful ordinary life. And it’s breathtakingly beautiful.”
– L.R. Knost
The time has come to realize that there is nothing I can do when your grown children have decided to move out of the country. I grew up with everyone (and I mean everyone) lived on the same block. Aunt and uncles and their families and grandma….all on the same block. But that was the time when everyone knew each other and watched out for each other. I remember going to the local grocery store and telling Mr. G. to put it on my grandmas bill.
And so this generation has other ideas. Do we blame it on technology, planes that take only a few hours to get us to where we want to go. I considered myself blessed when 4 of my 5 children lived in the same neighborhood. One went to live an hour away….but it still was a close and easy accessible area. And now I will have to accept them leaving NY to fly to another country, taking my two grandchildren. It’s good, a great job and I know they will be fine. But still I will miss them….although with technology – we will skype and manage to keep in touch….but its not the same.
Do you have children outside the US? How do you cope? Any ideas on how to keep in touch besides calls, texts etc.
I often read of people who get depressed and turn to extreme measures to deal with it. Some people are hoarders, some drink, some shut themselves in a house never to come out. I have seen people who are angry at everyone and everything in their lives. I have met people who do not have a nice thing to say about anything. They feel the world is not their friend and cannot cope.
I think everyone has been depressed at one time or another and how you deal with it means the difference between needing therapy or not. I know there are days I dont want to get out of bed…living in the East when the weather is bad I tend to hang around the house, no makeup on and just want to vegetate.
There is nothing wrong with that. But is it the norm for everyday or just an occasional thing. Thankfully I can say it is only out once in a while. I am the type of person who needs to be outside, meeting other people and taking in the sights of the world. But I do know people who would rather sit on the couch all day and watch tv. How to get them out and about has not been easy especially since it is family. You always become the bad guy in these situations. But I will not stop and think once the weather gets nice it will be easier. In the meantime, I sometimes want to sit around the house also. (Although there are some things I have to do around here like cleaning out closets and laundry!)
As we go through life we find friends everywhere. First it was family friends, friends on the block, friends at school, friends at work…friends in the neighborhood … and there is a great bonding that one does not realize until you dont see those friends anymore, or as often.
I recently retired and of all the things that has happened since that time….my one thing I miss the most is seeing those friends I made at work. But the older I get the more I find out that even if we dont see each other every day…there is still a friendship there that is never broken.
And somehow when we do get together we have so much more respect and love and cherish the time we do meet up and talk about our families and what our plans are…..so friendship never really ends. It just gets put on the back burner for a while – to then come out and be cherished even more than before….
Have you called a friend today?
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